Generational trauma & Motherhood, Lesson 2:

Lesson #2: Identify how you want to live instead.

For mothers, it is difficult to say: “This is what I want for my life and my children. I deserve to have the life I desire.”

That last part though.

You deserve to have the life you desire.

Now that you’ve identified how the patterns show up in your life, you need to begin engaging with the trauma instead of pretending like it doesn’t exist.

Ask yourself what it is you want for your life and from the people in your life:

Do you want to be more emotionally connected to your avoidant partner? Do you want to call out your problematic grandfather at the Thanksgiving table without cancelling him? Do confront your combative mother after years of enduring her criticism?

Or, do you want be more patient with your child? Do you want to enjoy your job? Do you simply want to have more time to sleep?

Write down the story of your life as if the generational curse had been broken two generations ago. Write the story of your legacy, as if the generational curse is broken now.

What would you be doing? What would the quality of your relationships be like? How would you feel on a day-to-day basis?

Give yourself everything you’ve every wanted from a healthy family and write it down. When you’re finished, read it to yourself and notice the feelings that come up for you in your body as you imagine this life.

Maybe not now, but in the future with some support, this life become reality. And so it is.

Onto more work in Lesson #3

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